Every man’s way is right in his own eyes,
But the Lord weighs the hearts. Proverbs 21:2

Trying to sort things out (choices, direction, motives, etc.), can be very difficult, because as the verse says all my ways seem Godly to me. So how do I know when I am pleasing to God, or just pleasing myself?

I can’t. All I can do is ask for help.

Search me, O God, and know my heart;
test me and know my anxious thoughts.
See if there is any offensive way in me,
and lead me in the way everlasting. Psalm 139:23-24

When I think I know the way, that is when I start to wander.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart
And do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge Him,
And He will make your paths straight.
Do not be wise in your own eyes;
Fear the Lord and turn away from evil. Proverbs 3:5-7